We’re in the family room today with host Janeen Herskovitz, talking about the number one thing her coaching clients have reported makes the biggest difference in their interactions with their children. It’s not a specific therapy, secret supplement or special diet…it’s presuming their competence!
In this episode you will discover:
- What it means to presume your child’s competence.
- How to make these changes in your home today.
- Personal anecdotes from Janeen’s own parenting journey.
- What can happen if you don’t presume competence in your child.
Mentioned on the podcast:
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- If you’d like to schedule one-on-one coaching sessions with Janeen, contact her here.
Notes:
8 Tips for Presuming Competence
- Your child’s outsides probably don’t match their insides. How someone walks, looks or talks does not tell you how they think and feel.
- Support the child’s communication style and use where they are to build upon greater skills.
- Eye contact, or even facial proximity is not necessarily an indication of how well they are listening.
- Speak as if your child understands you at the appropriate age level. Don’t use “baby talk” when speaking to your child.
- Never speak about your child in front of them, as if they are not present.
- Get your child’s permission before sharing information & include them as much as possible in the conversation, even if they cannot respond verbally.
- Look for evidence of understanding and become familiar with your child’s indication of understanding.
- Always allow your child to “speak” for themselves, and do not speak for them unless the listener needs clarification and you have the child’s permission to do so.
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